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Dating Rules!
The problem with the dating game is that there
are dating rules to follow and most of them we forget as we grow
older. You see, when we are young our fellow friends at school and
college reinforce the way things should be done when dealing with
potential dates. Yes you should wear that, no you never say that,
yes you should do this, but no you never do that. Then we grow up.
For a time we are completely aware of the rules of dating and we
practice those rules every time we meet someone. But then we meet
someone perhaps, fall in love and have a relationship. Little by
little the things we learned over our formative years when dealing
with the fairer sex are lost and are in fact unlearned.
Then one day we are unwillingly thrust back
onto the dating scene only to find that we start behaving like 12
year olds. We call our dates too often, we are constantly available,
we wear the wrong clothes, laugh at bad jokes like a fool, date the
wrong people and generally get it all badly wrong. Then we get hurt
or taken for a ride. Of course there will be some of you reading
this that are the very epitome of dating sophistication, but the
truth is, when you lose your heart you also lose your head. If you
are going to date well then give these key do's and don'ts of dating
some serious consideration. Dating rules are very important if you
want to win and keep your perfect match.
Dating Rules - Do's
1. Do try to look your best and be punctual on
dates
2. Do have fun when dating. I know the subject
of Mr. or Miss Right is serious but dating is fun too so keep it
that way.
3. Do flatter and compliment your date on the
way they look and the things they wear. People tend to go to a lot
of effort on a date (hopefully) so being told that you are looking
good is a nice thing to hear.
4. Be interested and interesting. As the Pet
Shop Boys once said, I was never bored because I was never being
boring" or something similar. You get my drift.
5. Do tell someone if you are not interested
in dating them again. Being lied to and hopes kept alive is an evil
and malicious act (yes I mean it that strongly). If you don't want
to see someone again then let them know that in the nicest possible
way you can.
6. Do date the type of people you like and are
attracted to, whatever your friends may say. Approval by your peers
doesn't prove a thing.
7. Do stay positive even when dates don't end
well. It is most certainly true that you will date a few frogs
before you find a prince. Along the way you will meet some nice
people too and make some good contacts possibly.
8. Dating is a creative diversion, it requires
concentration and energy so when you are dating keep some plans in
the forefront of your mind and allow dating to take you to places
you always wanted to visit within your own city.
9. Do make dating happen for yourself. People
will not come and ring your bell from nowhere. Dating requires
positive action so go out there and meet people, as many people as
you can. Practice your chat and flirting on shop workers, bar
attendants, anywhere and everywhere. Being nice to people is very
sexy and great fun.
10. Do surround yourself with positive like
minded people who are also dating. Think about the girls from Sex
and the City and how they assist each other in dating and matters of
romance. Negative friends who don't condone the dating scene or
don't understand it will only help lower your own expectations and
make you feel negative.
Dating Rules - Don'ts
1. Never call someone more than once a day
unless they reply. Desperation and instability are huge turn offs.
2. Don't date the people who you usually find
dump you. You may be generally attracted to bastards but that will
not get you anywhere except hurt.
3. For men, never ever be late for a date,
even if you have a very good reason. Women should never be kept
waiting and should never have to seat themselves - ever.
4. Never tell lies to your date or pretend
anything about your life that isn't true. If this is your perfect
match for God's sake do not allow it to be ruined by some silly lie
told early on.
5. Never be too available. Being available
every night of the week and at the end of every whimsical phone call
or possible rendezvous means you are making yourself uninteresting
and a possible doormat. Be busy, be unavailable generally and be
interesting.
6. Don't give away too much about yourself at
the start. People love enigma and mystery. Revealing to your new
date your inner most secrets on date number two will quickly ruin
everything. A small bit at a time people.
Top
Dating Tips!
I thought I would bring you the top 10 dating
tips I have gathered along the way in the hope of assisting and
enlightening those who need assistance. If you are new to the dating
scene, a regular or just simply someone trying to meet someone new there
should always be time for top dating tips, advice, information and
things to consider. None of us are dating experts otherwise we would
have a magic formula to present to others. And no, looks are not the
magic formula otherwise all supermodels would be blissfully happy -
which they are not my friend. Good looking people the world over
struggle when it comes to affairs of the heart. Think of all the major
figures in history who have fallen in matters of romance.
My Top Dating Tips
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Get prepared for dating. If
you really want to succeed in the dating game, decide who you are
looking for, do your research and be ready to commit to dating. Half
heartedness won't work. Also prepare for some let downs along the
way but don't take dating too seriously either.
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Get your act together. Begin a
regime of looking your best. Join a gym, read health magazines, get
fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled and begin a new
regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though it will not find
you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident
about yourself.
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Go shopping and treat yourself
to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one
that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don't
go overboard and look like someone you are not but maybe its time to
throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and spruce
yourself up. People appreciate appearance.
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Have a good think about what
your dating goals are and timescales. Do you see yourself married
within 2 years? If you do then approach dating accordingly. If you
are more laid back and don't take dating too seriously then ask
yourself some honest questions about why you are dating and what you
hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask yourself if you are
about to be honest with those you hope to date.
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Sort out your confidence
levels in advance. By following the first four tips you will feel
better and be more focused. Do all the things that will boost your
confidence from avoiding negative friends (often the married ones)
to attending the right kind of social functions. Couples at dinner
parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be right
now.
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